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About me Having been in the fitness industry for many years I always felt there was something missing in the way traditional Personal Training and Group Exercise is offered. The client comes in with a ‘problem’ i.e weight loss, we facilitate them to achieve this goal, they lose weight, they believed they’d be happy once the weight loss was achieved, only the real issue lies beneath. Really they wanted to find love, they felt lonely and they had limiting beliefs that they were not good enough, so their goal of obtaining a certain aesthetic was actually to hide to the outside world how unhappy they were deep-down. I found myself, as I battled with an Eating Disorder, Body Image and self worth for many years, my goal was to be stronger mentally, I thought if I made my body stronger, if I became a body builder, the trophies, the likes on social media, the external validation would make me a worthy person. Unconsciously I had trauma to overcome. I find Mindset to be the key to helping people really achieve their goals, gaining confidence in all areas and living life to the full.



NLP is the practice of harnessing the power of language to break down the mental barriers we unknowingly create for ourselves. When 'following your dreams' and reaching your full potential can at times seem impossible, a qualified practitioner can use this specialist technique to help guide you to realise that the only thing holding you back in life, is yourself. This is NLP (neuro-linguistic programming). “Neuro” meaning nerve, refers to the way we gather information from the outside world, using our five senses. “Linguistic” is the study of language, referring to the way we make sense of said information by organising it into the structure of language. Finally, “programming” is our way of controlling something. This refers to how we interpret the world and how we control our daily actions, choices and behaviours.


What is NLP?

Maybe you’ve never been given the opportunity, you’re constantly saying, “next year” or your responsibilities are holding you back from reaching your goals. While a daily routine and habit can be difficult to break out of, the excuses you tell yourself are what is really stopping you from making these achievements.

NLP is considered to be one of the most useful and accessible tools to come from modern psychology and can assist with: · stress management · improving feelings of empathy · improving communication skills · resolving destructive relationship patterns.

NLP teaches us how changing the way we perceive the world can lead us to adjust and adapt our behaviours in order to live the life we dream of. An NLP coach will work to encourage the client to move out of their comfort zones: breaking barriers and taking chances only helps to develop a fuller, happier and infinitely more satisfying life. NLP maps NLP maps (also known as models) are the next component behind the technique. The idea is that each of us has a unique map marking out the journey of our lives. NLP practitioners use the idea of a map to illustrate how we can only view our own representations of the world, not the world itself. Think of it as though we are all wearing goggles that only show certain parts of the world. Even if two people are standing side by side, witnessing the same event, both will come out with a different experience. Whether we are aware of it or not, every event in our lives impacts our future in some way. This may be our beliefs, behaviours, reactions or the decisions we make, but each one will make a mark on our future. This understanding is fundamental to NLP. A practitioner will use NLP to understand how and why clients back themselves into a corner or "get stuck in a rut". Some may feel restricted, as though they lack the skill or worth to reach their goals. While this may not be their choice, it may be a result of something that happened in the past. A harsh rejection, a personal loss or perhaps public embarrassment may have left a mark on their map, preventing them from pushing forward in the future. Language and NLP The final theory behind NLP coaching is that it is down to the person to push the boundaries of our maps by ‘reprogramming our internal control systems’. Language gives us the ability to formulate, express and communicate our thoughts. It structures our world and the meaning and associations of words not only describe, but shape the world around us. By altering their use of language, a person can expand the limits of their maps and take the first steps to start the changes they want to make. For example, think of the word ‘failure’ – what does this mean to you? To some, the word may represent disappointment, sadness and trigger the sinking sensation in the stomach. These associations may alter how they will react to a failure - or risk of failure - in the future. However, others may associate the word with new beginnings, a fresh start and another life experience. By altering the way different words and associations shape a person’s network of vocabularies, they can begin to change the way they think and their perception of the world. What to expect While the methods used by professionals will all differ, the standard NLP coaching session will follow the same, basic pattern. Initially, the practitioner will ask what you want to change and the problems you want to overcome. They will pay close attention to what you’re saying and how you say it, tailoring the session to your responses. The NLP coach will then work through a range of exercises with you in order to piece together your “life map”. They will begin to introduce new thought processes in order to help you widen your boundaries. It is common for the practitioner to give you a number of exercises to practice at home. This will help you get accustomed to the techniques learnt in the NLP coaching session. While the main neurological changes will have occurred during the session, they may take time to settle in. It is normal for the changes to progress over time, as you get back into your daily routine. They may ask you to record how you felt before, during and after sessions. This is so you and the NLP practitioner can look back on the results. You will also make note of any changes you have noticed since starting the sessions and record any at-home exercises you have completed. When you are ready, both you and the practitioner will decide on the next stage of your life and what change to begin. It is thought that NLP is such a popular technique because it focuses on the future. It works to explore future possibilities and solutions, rather than encouraging you to dig up past memories or experiences. NLP coaching is about adding opportunities and widening perceptions, rather than dwelling on the negatives.


How can NLP help?

Neuro-linguistic programming is often regarded as “a tool-kit for the mind”, and because of this, NLP is used to improve all areas of a person’s life. It is known to be particularly effective for improving the following situations: Anxiety and stress Health and Fitness Fears and phobias Relationships Confidence